There's going to be a dance here in my gated community so I thought I'd ask one of the dancers from outside it to come with me. This seemed like a safe bet. I've known them a few months and all seem very nice.
The first man I asked, who's also the best dancer, had to work. A valid excuse since I knew he worked night shift every other week. It might have been a convenient excuse but he did request that I ask again if another dance came up. That's not a brush off, is it?
But the second guy I asked said he'd have to check his schedule and get back to me. So we exchanged email addresses. A week later he says in an email, "By the way, did you know I'm married? Does that make a difference?" Hell yes it makes a difference! Good grief. Why didn't he say that when I asked him to the dance? He doesn't wear a wedding ring, why would I suspect he was married when he'd been flirting with me?
Granted it's been a long time since I've been single but I don't remember ever being approached by a married man for a date. Okay, technically I'm the one who approached him, but still. Blech! It still gives me the creeps to know I almost dated a married man. *sigh* All I wanted to do was go to a dance with someone who enjoyed dancing. It's too soon for me to be considering anything else. I wonder if he thought I'd be easy since I'm recently widowed? Possibly. But honor and integrity are two essential ingredients that I value in a person's character. It's obvious the second guy is lacking both. Thank goodness he at least mentioned it. I can't imagine how I would have felt if I'd found out later, after the dance. *shudder*
So now I'll ask my older neighbor friend and hope he doesn't get the wrong idea. Wish me luck.